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Making Connections

30 Friday Jan 2015

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I lose track sometimes…Did I mention that I had a profile on an online site?  I did, you probably don’t remember.  It’s not a match site, or a looking to find my soul mate kind of site, it’s for those who are looking to have affairs. Or as I like to call them dalliances.

I’ve been through some mail!! A ton of it. Apparently the use of the wording; “…nothing gets me hotter, wetter than performing fellatio.”  I sorta buried that at the end and yet it was the hot topic of the responses.  The site has the usual list of boxes to check and within each section of ;the what I’m looking for, what I like, it allows you to expound on your wants and needs.  I didn’t check hardly any of the boxes, as they were too broad and kinda geeky. I did, however, make good use of the narratives-they gave you plenty of word space.

I was precise and made it known, in as plain as I could, what I was looking for. I held nothing back. Well…maybe a little thing or two, I kept from the narratives.  And just to make it interesting and tantalizing, I checked the box; “Attached female seeking male. Photos (of course) were recommended. There were a variety of mask you could use to disguise your face. I chose a gold regal mask and a recent selfie. Adding it to the profile, satisfied that everything was ready for publishing, I clicked Post Profile and left the site.

The mail poured in!!  It’s amazing what one little sentence can do to peek a gentlemen’s interest.  There are 5 that I’m exchanging emails with.  I’ve started them out slow…nothing too kinky, too soon. Their first question, naturally; Do you really enjoy giving blow jobs?  Yes, I responded. I enjoy feeling a man’s penis grow in my mouth, becoming hard…moving slowly, increasing my motion, listening as he moans in de-lite.   Two wanted to know if I swallowed. Oh please! A lady never kisses and tells!

The mail continues to pour in daily. I check the site once a week. I am amazed by the sheer numbers.  There are hundreds if not thousands of horny guys who just want to get a little on side, preferably something more than missionary sex. For the most part they’re seeking adventure sex, kinky sex and seem to want to do anything to get it.  I’ve had some experience with BDSM. The retired admiral and his wife, were submissive and the orgasms were mind-boggling. (I’ll save them for another day)  BDSM, is not for the faint of heart, but it can be sexual awakening.  Even the lightest forms; a pair of handcuffs, a blind fold, lite spanking, ice cubes can be tantalizing.  For now I’m enjoying the email exchanges…Should I chose one?  Maybe two to explore with?

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Brace yourself: Valentine’s Day is lurking

17 Saturday Jan 2015

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Before you go any further, stop and take a moment. That new guy or gal in your life…the one you met at the holiday party. Ask yourself this: Are we dating? Are we hanging out, just having fun? Are we FWB (friends with benefits)?  Is it serious? Long term? Short term?

These are things you need to figure out NOW!  In three short weeks it will be Valentines Day!  A little fore thought now could save you a lot of grief on February 14, especially this year. This year Valentines Day falls on a Saturday, which means the entire freakin’ weekend will be Valentines Weekend!!!  <cue music; dun-dun-dunnnn>   This will be more than a hearts and flowers Valentines Day. We’re talking Valentines Day on steroids!!!  <cue music again; dun-dun-dunnnn>  

This could mean an entire day of hearts and flowers activities, to include that romantic candle lite dinner. And to biggie size it, a whole weekend. Picking her up from work with that wheelie overnight bag, heading off to some romantic drive to a quaint little place, returning Sunday morning. This could take the relationship to an entirely new level.

Pull out your pad and pen, or your tablet, or whatever you need to figure out the pros and cons of that new person in your life. One day, no biggie, but a weekend is some serious shit.

On a positive note; a 2 night jaunt could be a good thing. Lots of sex! Morning wake up sex, which is my favorite, but that’s just me. There’s nothing like waking up, performing fellatio and after, enjoying a cup of coffee in bed while watching ESPN.

It’s nice to receive, but sometimes it can be rewarding to give…

Ladies I’d think you’d have a little figuring out to do, as well.  Is that new guy in your life someone you could spend a couple of nights with?  And if you haven’t performed fellatio, are you willing to surprise him with a “mind-blowing” (pardon the pun) performance?  I have never met a man who did not like head. Never!  Most guys are happy with the bj, but here’s a question; Swallow? Not to swallow?  To me it depends who the guy is, along with several other things. If I don’t swallow, I’m on that head until just before explosion, for the maximum effect  Men like the element of the unexpected bj, especially when they don’t have to hint at it, ask for it. And doing it unexpectedly in a place they’d never expect it is a “mind-blowing” (pardon the pun) down right toe tingling organism.  But I caution you, ladies, be mindful of where. Because unless you plan to swallow, it could becum a disastrous mess.  So consider that before you make your move to please your Valentine.

And before I tally off…

Gents, consider “sticky fingers” for Valentines Day.  I personally like it at a stop light, a quick in and out before the light turns green and the car behind us honks, or in the elevator, the parking garage…I don’t need to cum just a teaser will do.

Get busy…you’re only three weeks til Valentines Day Weekend!

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Three degrees of separation; Friend, Lover, Friend

05 Monday Jan 2015

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Lovers to friends is tricky. Break ups are messy with nasty things implied and even nastier things said. Becoming friends after a break up takes a strong constitution. Emotionally you’re prone to fall back into a zone-black hole that you’ve climbed out of, that contributed to the break up. Becoming friends with an old lover means you’ve forgiven…to forget could be dangerous..moving forward can be liberating, but old habits dye hard…

Did they cheat on you? Lie to your face? Ditch you for fun with friends? Weekend trips without you, night outs creeping home at dawn? Date night replaced with work at the office?

And somehow, after the break up, all the crap you put up with, a few weeks-months later you’re on friendly terms, this person having made it to the “friend column” in your contact list, a star by their name putting them on your favorites list. This phase has it’s “honeymoon” stage as well. You see them in a different light. The darkness that surrounded them when you were a couple on the verge of name calling and break-up, you’re not attached. You have no say or care with whom they’re sleeping, or if they’re lying to someone about meeting you for a Starbucks. It’s nice to see them, you greet them with a smile. This person is familiar you and will likely get your joke about the oddly dressed guy sitting at the next table.

For a time, it’s great! Then, like a faucet with unmarked spigots, you stress about meeting, because now you’re not sure if you are meeting a hot or cold friend. Text have become short and abrupt. You come to the realization that they are the person you left, this is the real them…you can’t change the spot of a leopard. Just short of crossing into the couple zone, you’re once again in the black hole. Do you confront them, surely you will argue, creating a monolith.

You can’t continue doing the same thing, in the same way, expecting a different result. Deny yourself the need to confront, or to discuss. Allow yourself the dignity and deny them further audience. You’ve done that breakup dance before…learn from it. Lovers to friends is a maze of emotions.

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