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SEX REHAB INVENTED BY A MISOGYNIST by line Ashely Madison

28 Friday Aug 2015

Posted by graynoted in adult category, husband and wife

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ASHLEY MADISON, cheaters, COMMON SENSE, DON'T KNOCK IT UNTIL YOU'VE TRIED IT, HACKERS, MONOGOMOUS, ONLINE WEDSITE, PRIVATE KEY, SEXTING

Now that the cat is out of the bag…Let’s see a show of hands for all of us who are on the website ASHLEY MADISON.

Having read the articles, it explains a lot. Here I thought I was a hot commodity, being pursued by many men, some too, good to be true, mind you, but to find out there are 10 men for every woman on the site.  Once again, I’m a little shocked that there aren’t more women…if not before, after the hackers put the word out, there should be more women signed up on AM.

For heaven’s sake!!!  I am soooooo over the freakin’ moral platitudes of people. Men and women have cheated since the beginning of time. Can you say Camelot?  Can you say Henry VIII?  And what the fuck is sex rehab?!  How do you manage to do that?  That’s like sending a gay person to rehab to convince them they’re not gay. It’s a bunch of bull shit!!  Unless they hog tie you to a bed at night, you can masturbate under the sheets while you’re in sex rehab. It is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.

Some people just like to have sex more often than others. Some people like to have sex with multiple partners. Some people like to have sex with someone other than their wife. Sorry, but that may be hurtful to the wife, but I have to ask; has she done all she can do to keep him monogamous?  Yet again, there are some people, men and women, who just aren’t monogamous. It’s their footprint, their makeup, their  marker. Society has all these rules.

The big brew-ha-ha, over same-sex marriages. Now the big to-do over a cheating website. It’s all anti-sex.  And the killer part of this is, most of the objectors are the closet freaks. I suppose they’re more worried of being found out.

Let me remind everyone; it’s not illegal to sex-text, commonly known as sext. Especially if it involves 2 consenting adults, 3 consenting adult, 4…Everyone is screaming about the rights of Americans to bear arms. It being our Constitutional right. Well, hello pilgrim, it’s also our right as a consenting adult to hook up on a site that goes to great lengths to protect your identity, providing facial coverage for online posted photos, gives you the option of reveling yourself by voluntarily giving someone your private key.  You can make your private photos as reveling as you want. The site is very sophisticated, it allows you to be seen or not to be seen, and when you’re seen, you can see who has viewed you. And what girl on a dating site doesn’t like to get a wink from a guy? Doesn’t matter if he’s your type or not. Women like to be noticed. I would have been deeply depressed if I hadn’t been inundated  with request for my private key, or not received a horde of winks. Or my favorite a shit load of photos (men’s private keys).

The secret to success, is being creative. Some guys would probably do themselves a favor by taking a creative writing class before creating their online profile. But I have to give it to AM, they’ve got a great list of things you can check the box on to get you started. Of course, there’s always the few guys with no imagination, that won’t check the box, uses a photo, clearly that has been taken with his wife, that he’s clumsily attempted to chop her out. To that guy I say; HEAD SHOT! And check the boxes please! There’s nothing more boring than a two-line profile with an opening headline: Bored husband looking for fun.  Really!  I mean, really?  Use your palm and five fingers…I see why your wife ain’t putting out.

I’m enjoying my time. There was a time when I was so overwhelmed I thought about deleting my site altogether.  I did take a short break, went back with a new attitude and revamped my profile for a different type of guy. And it worked! I am having a ball. Have met some funny, intelligent guys, who have made for some great dinner conversation over some very nice meals. These guys just want a little attention, some want sex, but some are content with good conversation and a friendly smile, feeling appreciated. Some of them are like puppies! You just want to squeeze ’em and take ’em home!  (i’m being metaphorical, of course)

Hackers, be damned! Moralist, get a life or better yet, take a break and masturbate, try to enjoy the feeling not make it a dirty habit. Birds do it, bees do it, humans can’t help themselves-they are human. SEX is human! It’s the only thing in life we don’t miss if we haven’t had it (virgin), but once we do, it’s no stopping us. SEX sells. ASHLEY MADISON is doing a public service. I’ll bet their online signups have increased since they went mainstream. Which is really funny. For all the famous folks that have confessed, there’s probably a thousand of unknown Joe Blows that have sign up.

But ladies, a word of caution; be smart with your info. Create another email account before you sign up. Use it exclusively for your AM contact and if you find you’re into sexting, get yourself a burner cell. Enjoy yourself free of worry.

Thank you ASHLEY MADISON!

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When we last spoke…

30 Tuesday Sep 2014

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cheaters, fall, fire pitts, married couples, online dating, spice, swingers, threesome

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When we last we spoke I mentioned having joined an online site for meeting men. The site is specifically designed for women, it’s free but has a fee for men. You’re given a choice of displaying photos for public or private viewing.  There’s also a choice of mask or cross overs for the face in order conceal your full identity, yet give the viewer an idea of what you look like.

It was a ovewhelming task to keep up. The site became confusing with all the points of interest that men where able to contact you; private keys, private photo request, direct letters of introduction all with their own photos and profiles. I decided to trim it down to weekly perusing and creating a separate email account for the ones that I felt were interesting. Oy Vey!! Even that became a task unto itself. These guys expect, no strike that, they demand daily attention, some want to communicate several times a day. I ask you; Who has that kind of time during the day to want to email a stranger several times?  I took note that most of these strong request for email exchange were dated during the day hours, very few had night-time send times.  So these so-called lonely men, who were touting a single status, were probably married or had a significant other.

I made changes to my online profile; looking for married couples, opened minded, comfortable relationship…I can watch, be involved with one or both…whatever makes you most comfortable…prefer experienced couples, may consider first timers.  It’s fall, it’s been my experience that swinging couples like to get cozy when the leaves began to change and fall from the trees. It’s the crisp air, the onset of fire pitts, glasses of hot tardy or a robust glass of wine and chatter around the fire.

Couples are a funny thing. There’s the initiator, and the go along. It’s the go along  you must be concerned with and give him or her your undivided attention and make them, him or her, feel like they are the most precious or special person in the group. They’re excited about the prospect of being with another, a threesome or having their spouse watch or watching, but doing the do is a bird of a different colour. Porn is probably as close to seeing sex as they’ve ever been.  I usually ask that as my first question; How often do you watch porn? Is there something specific you’ve seen that you’d like to experience?  Most often if the woman is the initiator, it’s going to happen and happen more than once. If it’s the man, you’ve got a little work to do, just short of convincing. I stop when it turns into convincing. If you have to be cajoled into doing a threesome, then you’re not up for it, it’s not for you, and guaranteed to end if not badly, but on a sour note. Sex is supposed to be fun, fulfilling, enjoyed, exciting…anything other than that is bad karma.

I set my profile and headed off to the USOpen. And as the old saying goes; You always find what you’re looking for, when you’re not looking. A couple; her early 50’s, him early 60’s, located within a decent driving distance, tennis players, good shape, comfortable in their relationship and wanting to spice it up…Call me spice…

The Open was a get acquainted, our schedules haven’t allowed for dining and entertaining, as of yet…ten, four dinner and fun.

Fall blogging is going to be an

eotic ride…Libras love fall, it’s their time of the year.

 

Ask…only if you’re prepared for the answer

26 Monday May 2014

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cad, cheaters, south beach, Tennis

I’ve been way too busy to devote any time to my blog. Between stroking out chapters, being a creative force, captain of a spring league team of 13 ladies, how and when could I bring the goods to this site, in the manner that I’m accustomed. Something had to yield and this fell into the void.
I’m here today and will not promise tomorrow or even the day. So let’s get started!!!
I last talked about being kicked to the curb…being played by love is daunting and painful.
Falling in love is the one emotion a human cannot control. We may be the brightest and the smartest among the living creatures, but when it comes to falling for someone, love has it’s own agenda and the heart wants what the heart wants. You know its’s disaster, but you’re not in control; heart-1, common sense-0!
Playing tennis with a partner over time provides for confessional moments. My partner has been distracted for the past couple of weeks and our scores reflect her diversion. So I finally asked; ” girl what is going on with you?!”
First lesson; never ask a question if you’re not prepared for the answer or in this case the explosion of tears and sobbing. In spite of the quivering lip, blowing the nose, sniffling…I pieced together that her married man-friend was or is having a fling with another woman. That’s easily solved; walk away! Chow! Sayonara! Au revoir! And duh! He’s married, he’s screwing around on his wife, why would you think for a minute he’d be loyal, faithful to you?? Ding! Ding! He’s a cad, in a really big way and those spots ain’t gonna change.
Okay, let it be known I’m a glutten for punishment; asking how did she find out, the wife cheater was cheating on his piece on the side? “He told me.” STFU!!! He told you?!! Is he wanting to end the relationship and being a bigger cad, doing it this way? No, she responded…I put on my best poker face for what came next. He wasn’t going to call her from his cell for awhile, because the lady’s husband has found out and is going to the news media (apparently Mr Cad is a big mucky mucky in the finance world-scandal be damn) and there may be a look into his phone records, for her protection, he doesn’t want her number to be on his bill. STFU!! Really?!! So he was calling from his office phone to let her know that he’ll be MIA for a week or so, ’til this blows over.
She’s heart broken. She misses him. Really, he’s done her a favor, but who am I to judge. Clearly her heart is invested in this cad and her common sense has gone on vacation to Margaritaville. Not sure what to say, I continue to listen. The wife, received a call from the other woman’s husband informing her of the shenanigans of his wife with her husband. There are receipts from a hotel and air travel, restaurant charges on a credit card.
“Here?” I finally ask, interrupting.
No. Miami, late March-early April. STFU!!! They have traveled to the hottest vacay spot for lovers on the east coast!! Spent the night as a couple, in the same bed, shared a bathroom and all the entails!!! STFU!!! I’m about to bust! Do I tell her the obvious? He’s got another and he MOVED on when they boarded a plane to go salsa dancing in South Beach.
I say to her; “Think about this, look outside of yourself, put your heart in check and bring your common sense back from the Conch Republic. If you were his only, minus the wife, technically he’s cheated on you with another on a over nighter. You have to see this. If it were me (and I truly hate using that term), I’d let him call and I wouldn’t answer…emails, text, knocks on my door…be done with this cad!!! He’s a serial fornicator. Buy yourself a cute sexy dress, head over to the wine bar, have a glass or two…flirt your heart out. Let the guys tell you how great you look, bask in it…maybe have sex in the bathroom, call a cab and go home alone. Trust me you’ll feel better in the morning.
Serial fornicators or smooth operators, they know what to say in any situation, will tell you everything you want to hear at the perfect moment and they are pros when it comes to a sob story complete with tears.
I need my partner back…tennis ain’t fun when you’re not kicking ass on the courts.

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Shades Of Erotic Poetry

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Erotic Banana

Cry a little, Laugh a lot, Love often ~Addison G.

Erotic Scribes

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Erotic Fantasy Life

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The Erotic Writer

Three writers for the price of one blog

Overcoming Sexual Betrayal

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The Asexual Agenda

Furthering upper-level discussions of asexuality

A Sexual Being

Where the lines of fantasy and reality blur…

Sexual Destinies

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Holland Rae, Writer

Romance novelist, traveler, journalist. Lover of female protagonists, spicy food, fast cars, and good books.

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